Therapy for Teenage Boys in Brentwood, Tn.
If you’re reading this, likely you’re worried about your son or he’s expressed an interest in talking to someone.
As a parent, or caregiver, you care deeply about your son. That’s why you’re on this page right now.
Maybe your relationship with him has significantly changed or his relationship with some other members of the family.
You might have noticed changes in the way he expresses, or oftentimes - doesn’t express, his feelings.
Often parents reach out to me because they’re concerned about, and/or irritated by, some of his behavior and what they’ve tried isn’t working anymore.
Well, that’s where I come in. Scroll on to learn about my process in working with teen boys and their families.
Foundational Beliefs
+ The most important thing kids need from their parents is to feel Seen, Safe, Soothed, and Secure.
+ The onus of relational repair between children and parent is always on the parent.
+ It is never the children's job to regulate the parent, it is always the parents job.
+ My job is to enhance the quality of relationship with himself and with you, not change his behavior.
+ Sometimes feel like an imposter and to be more confident with who you are.
MY APPROACH
CURIOSITY + COMPASSION + SLOWNESS
Attachment is the emotional bond between us and our caregivers. We are influenced by our family of origin regardless of how “good” our childhood was. In order to change the present, we must engage the past.
Together, we’ll explore early relationships with caregivers, family dynamics, and significant childhood experiences. What’s unresolved or unprocessed in the past, can impact the present.
1 ATTACHMENT FOCUSED
“Everything you judge about yourself served a purpose at the time.” - Gabor Mate
Trauma is experienced by external situations such as war, sickness, and overt forms of abuse. AND, it can also experienced in close relationship. Ongoing abuse (sexual, emotional, physical), abandonment and enmeshment wreaks havoc on the soul.
Unaddressed or unprocessed trauma (wounds) are not stuck in the past. They affect us presently and show up as unwanted behavior, relational issues, shame, etc.
2TRAUMA INFORMED
“Trauma is not what happens to you; trauma is what happens inside you as a result of what happens to you.” - Gabor Maté
Our emotions are experienced in our bodies. Our brain then makes sense of our felt experience and often categorizes it as “good” or “bad.” The problem with that is we learn to disconnect from our body and spend majority of the time in our head.
Our bodies can’t lie to us, but our brain can. Together, we will learn to integrate your body, mind, and spirit (heart) so you can show up with your whole self.
3BODY AWARE
“Neuroscience research shows that the only way we can change the way we feel is by becoming aware of our inner experience and learning to befriend what is going inside ourselves.” - Bessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score
YOU JUST NEED A GUIDE TO HELP YOU GET THERE.
That’s where I come in. With years of engaging the depths of my own story, masters degree in understanding people and relationships, and thousands of client hours … I’m committed to guiding you on this journey.
Together we will set goals, explore your story, come to feel safer in your body, and make sense of what lies beneath the surface.
If you’re ready to do that work, let’s get started.
